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Regarding the aggressive comment that Moria Casán received on her networks about the exposure of her body in a bikini on the beach of Mar del Plata, it is essential to debate the characteristics of the bodies that are worthy of being shown in a bikini…

Under the premise of having a body to be applauded, desired and worthy of being shown, women go through the processes of generic socialization -that is, becoming women- with impositions and mandates that do not allow us to look beyond the possibility of feeling happy with the body we have.

The body is that packaging that carries us, with which we go through our existence and that, beyond wanting it or not, is what others look at before anything else. ”There are looks that undoubtedly say more than a thousand words… there are looks that when they look are hurtful and hurt”… says Axel in his song. And, just as Moria Casán -the ONE- was the victim of an aggressive gaze, it does not turn out to be an isolated event that so many women experience on a daily basis.

Women always wishing to be the owners of a body that they may never be able to have, since beyond the gym, healthy food and genetics, they will not have access to creams, surgeries, dermo-cosmetic treatments, among other substances offered by the market to have the ”desired” body.

A body “intervened” as many women have is not the “ordinary” body of the woman who is a housewife, caregiver, who has given birth, who does not have time to go to the gym, who does not favor her genetics, who lives sitting at the computer working or who after living 40, 50 or 60 years has stretch marks, cellulite, sagging breasts, belly, rolls and many other elements that correspond to what must be hidden in society current, in short, to be the owner of a body NOT worthy of being desired or shown.

How many conditioning factors operate in the look of the beautiful body, things like age, ethnicity, socioeconomic condition and not to mention gender – a woman’s body more exposed to condemnatory glances than the bodies of men. Could it be because women’s bodies are sold as objects of desire? They usually use to sell from handbags, clothes, cars, food and even models of parturient mothers; without forgetting the bodies of women who sell pornography.

So, to be wearing a bikini on the beach or to enjoy a sexual encounter, women are conditioned by all those rays that point at them and even make many of them not want to undress in bed in a sexual encounter with their partners or prefer to be with the light off or even not enjoying certain postures due to these conditions around the body itself.

There is a present that incites to stop the passage of time in the corporeality, that offers all the anti-age to be able to lie about age and that praises youth as the ideal of beauty.

What resources will be necessary to be able to face and be able to get out of the framework of these impositions and -very much in the Moria Casán style- respond and restore the importance to be able to show off the fullness with the body that one has? When are we going to feel happy with the bodies we have, is it possible?

It is necessary that we can educate girls and boys in the freedom to enjoy their bodies, without the market being the rector of beauty ideals, that we can navigate the multiple possibilities of being each and every one of us in our particularities and therefore to be able to see ourselves in our own beauty. But for this it is essential that adults show this acceptance with their behavior, since boys and girls are sponges that take everything from the environment and the expressions that their families show have an impact on them.

We must also question the advertisements we receive, build spaces to dialogue with young people and adults and critically analyze social impositions, assume in educational environments the great task that children can grow and love themselves as they are, since this shaping is part of of our lives and it is difficult to get out of that look of others with whom we grow and we build ourselves into people.

It is the Great task to critically analyze the mandates and thus be able to connect with our inner being, stripping it of those conditions and living our bodies and enjoying them in freedom. And as the #mujeresquenofuerontapa say, dare to “let go of your belly”.

I encourage myself to recommend that we look at ourselves and we can connect with our being that is under that body, that that look -following the song- comforts and caresses us; we connect with that part that we are from a great plurality in the universe. And that if we want to modify something, we can do it with the due analysis that this deserves and under the slogan of taking care of it, respecting it and loving it. Sexuality for health and pleasure.