“I don’t care who is in government, I say what I have to say. If he does things well, I don’t have to applaud him because that’s what he’s for, I criticize what he does wrong. Many tell me that I live throwing the fight and that I don’t see the positive. Those who govern applied for that and they have to do it.”
Words by José Larralde that summarize disappointment of many Argentines which can be seen many times in the office. It does not refer to a particular government, but to the uncertainty that has been experienced in recent years, to the little expectation of the future.
Maslow, a great humanist psychologist of the last century, developed a pyramid in his studies where human needs stood out. At the base of this pyramid are the physiological needs; Food, shelter, health, this base is followed by the need for securityIn other words, the person can be sure that these basic needs will continue to be covered, in others, other than “bread for today, hunger for tomorrow”, if these needs are covered, they can move towards belonging, recognition and self-realization. .
Psychology: Why are we afraid to say what we think?
Today many live in a reality where there is no certainty that their basic needs continue to be covered, this it generates disappointment and increasing uncertainty. Many Argentines are going through a situation that overwhelms, sudden inflation, traffic, marches and cuts, added to their own difficulties, family or work, Argentines arrive at the doctor’s office, “full of anger.”
The anger arrives at the office for not being able to make ends meet, for the cuts that make getting to work increasingly difficult, for the prices that rise day by day, for the taxes that grow, for the privileges of the leaders , because of the children and grandchildren who increasingly see Ezeiza as a way out of this crisis.
Several surveys have shown that a high percentage of Argentines believe that the economic crisis is going to have very deep and long-lasting negative effects on their personal and family life and this affects their mental health. other needs.
Although it may seem contradictory, it is still true that it’s good to have angerIt is totally healthy for anger to be present, because anger helps to set a limit, because well-expressed anger is an opportunity for change, because it is healthy not to be silent in the face of injustices and denounce them.
Anger is a healthy emotion and that it is necessary to express so that there are transformations.
The false anger is silent
Not all fights are the same, there is something that we can call “false fight” that is similar to the real one in that there is anger involved, but this false fight is silentjust complain without looking for solutionsor it is expressed aggressively, it is what leads to getting “bad blood” and closing in on oneself, which can turn into depression or anguish.
This lack of anger can become very destructive. The real anger is constructive, it says to the other “you got this far”, it is expressed without violence, but forcefully.
The emotion that is present, many times, hides much more than the anger, because behind that anger there can be a lot of sadness, or disappointment, because there is a loss of expectations, one is experiencing the mourning of an illusion. An illusion was lost, in which perhaps, there was hope, and there are already so many…
The duels of illusions are the most difficult, because the loss of what never was is present, of what was not had, not even the opportunity to enjoy. This is what the majority of Argentines experience, it is what is often brought to therapy, it is what hurts us, added to the fact that many times the other does not lend an ear to share the pain, since they are in another village a pointless gap. In reality, few are part of the gap, and many are on the precipice between those hard and dogmatic parties.
But this does not end here, if we only talk about the problem, we would be seeing only a part of reality.
We Argentines are resilient, which means that despite having experienced the worst crises, we have the capacity and we want to get ahead.
The human being throughout history will break having the experience of living the worst situations and still learn and grow. Today it is convenient to appeal to that capacity, to bring out what makes us unite and gives us meaning, to continue with hope.
The difficult situation is present, the crisis exists, today we can turn that danger into an opportunity to grow. Our mental health deserves it.
Dr. Flavio Calvo (MN: 66869). Dr. in psychology, teacher, workshop leader and author. @calvoflavio
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