We learned to relate through the relationship of our parents, or progenitors and then through what we could do.
The truth is that we can learn to relate, first with ourselves and then with other people.
It requires work and dedication. Here some tips:
Maintain fluid and constant communication. The more sincere the communication, the better. Many times we program something that, due to the comings and goings of life, does not happen as we think, in which case it is good to communicate what is happening in the process!
Be honest. No minutes. She speaks with her heart, and her head, she never fails. Learn to say “no” with a “yes”. For example, I love the idea of seeing each other, but I’m in a busy time, what if we talk to each other in a month to schedule the meeting?
Be supportive: share objectives, strategies, values and agenda, it will help them get to know you and know what you are up to, what you would like to do and how you can help other people.
Share information. Why do you want to keep what you learn and know? You never know who you’re inspiring besides.
Keep your word and your promises: be aware and consistent with what you say and stick to it, because your reputation depends on it. If you can’t, talk to each person involved, explain it to them and compensate them if necessary.
Work with obstacles: thus facilitating work in complex situations.
Be ethical: doing things the right way, even in the most difficult moments or decisions, generates respect and trust in your integrity.
Be grateful. Never forget who have been part of your path. It is very common to see that people, once they have taken what they need, move on without recognizing that they are who they are thanks to other people as well. Gratitude opens doors, and makes you a recipient of abundance.
Care about others: Show sensitivity and attention to other people. All people want to be seen and recognized.
See the glass half full. Don’t punish mistakes, they exist, they are part of the path. Ask yourself, what should I learn? What is the blessing behind this learning?
Train yourself and train others: Show people that you trust them. Guide them and help them find their way. Teach them to “fly” free and follow up and provide feedback to improve processes. Support their growth.
Be vulnerable. Know and accept your mistakes, that frees you and makes you great before the other person too.
Express yourself, communicate what you feel: Saying, this situation makes me uncomfortable, or sad, or makes me angry, helps people empathize with you, and helps you also empathize with others instead of putting distance.
Establish long-term relationships: Trust needs perseverance and time to evolve and flourish.
by Paula Cabalen
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